The philosophy
Make it Mentionable
Whatever we can mention, we can manage. The hard part is often the mentioning. I’m here to help.
If you’ve ever had something to say and found a reason not to say it, hi.
When I say “make it mentionable,” I’m talking about bringing that real conversation up to the surface, along with the feeling or need that’s been quietly steering it. The trouble is, sneaky patterns and old conditioning have a way of keeping certain things unsaid.
Common Ways We Stop Ourselves
Common ways we stop ourselves from making it mentionable: thoughts we tone down before anyone hears them, when being nice replaces kindness, ways we shrink our desire to be more palatable.
I’m not sure this works for me.
I think I’m meant to start a business.
I’m in love with you.
We subconsciously navigate what we choose to express.
Where it gets tricky
Two people, two different worlds
Communication is wild. You take two people, each with their own inner world of beliefs, stories, feelings, past experiences and whatever kind of day they’ve had, and put them together to create shared understanding or meaning. Only, it’s impossible to know what the other person is bringing to the table. That’s usually why conflict happens.
Your world
Their world
Them, as you imagine them
Both worlds are real. What we say, and what we don’t, lands in the space between us. Navigating that space is the work.You forget they have a world of their own and fill it in with yours. Now you’re talking to someone who isn’t there. That’s where misunderstanding starts.
GOOD NEWS
The fix? Making it mentionable.
BUT HOW?
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YOUR INNER WORLD
Make it Mentionable
To Yourself
Sometimes we’ve got to make it mentionable to ourselves.
We can’t change what we can’t name, so increasing our awareness and being able to make it mentionable to ourselves opens up possibility, perspective and most importantly, choice.
What do I actually want, and how do I move toward it?
What’s secretly running the show, and how do I change it?
WHAT REALLY SHAPES INTERACTIONS
Make it Mentionable
To Each Other
Sometimes we need to clue the other person in on what’s happening in our inner world.
At work, in love, with friends, with family: every conversation is two inner worlds meeting. Conflict and miscommunication happen in the dance between what’s said and what’s unsaid. Making it mentionable opens up real connection, collaboration, and intimacy.
What’s happening between us?
MAKE AN IMPACT
Make it Mentionable
To the World
Sometimes an idea is meant to leave a mark.
Your gifts can make a bigger impact once they leave your head. Telling your story, rallying people to a vision, sharing your creative work, writing, starting a business: each one asks you to get comfortable making your ideas mentionable and memorable.
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The Backstory
The quote that transformed my relationships.
I never liked watching Mister Rogers as a kid, but when I heard the quote, “Anything human can be mentioned, and anything that can be mentioned can be more manageable,” it resonated throughout my entire being. At some point I shortened the sentiment to “Whatever we can mention, we can manage” and the rally cry Make it Mentionable was born.
It started as gathering around my dinner table for women who wanted to talk about more than just wine. It then became a summit, a podcast, a newsletter, one of my core life philosophies, and the umbrella for how I love working with people.
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